Your 50’s seem to be a time of reflecting...’what have I accomplished in my life?’ ‘Where am I going?’, many experience empty nest syndrome, the kids are leaving home, doing their own thing...getting married, buying houses having children of their own, and not necessarily in that order, so we ask ourselves ‘ what is my purpose now in life?’
Are you kidding me?
Looking back I spent my 20’s, 30’s and 40’s looking after children because I wanted to be a full time mum, it was my choice, I had wanted children so much that the thought of putting them into childcare, or after school care just broke my heart, I didn’t want somebody else to experience their first word or first step or even their first tantrum so each day for me was filled with making packed lunches, taking them to school, attending teachers meetings, after school activities and just being home for them, nurturing, making sure they ate healthy meals and had a routine.
I chose not to have a career, money in the bank, nice holidays all of those things that go along sometimes with having a career, I chose to be a full time mum and earned money the best way I could... I cleaned peoples homes during school hours, I did childcare in our home and I took in ironing.
Did I every complain...blood oath I did...I am still waiting for my medal!
I did this for many years, seeing them grow up and move out, becoming their own people...so now is the time for me and my hubby.
Unusual I know, but Wayne and I still actually like each other and spending time together which is amazing after nearly 30 years.
We have a great relationship, we love to go out for coffee or lunch and we chatter non stop like we've just met, we laugh at each others silly jokes, him more at mine because I am funnier, we finish each others sentences, and not only is he the the love of my life he is great father and step father to my children he is still my best friend, partner in crime, lover and the only person in the world that knows everything about me.
He has been a wonderful father, caring step father, loving Grandad and taken care of me through my treatment for cancer and quite a few years of bad health, making me laugh and loving me every step of the way. I am so lucky with what I have in life, money can come and go but I realise the most precious thing I have in my life is my best friend.
We are selling our family home of nearly 20 years... which will be a wrench in itself, because we moved there with a young family which we raised there, and we have many memories of bringing up our family, of having a menagerie of pets from chooks, parrots and guinea pigs to hairless dogs and cats, fostering kittens, rearing sick wildlife. Some of our pets have sadly passed on now and we will be taking the next generation of furbabies (well not so furry) with us on our new adventure. This year we are moving interstate, we are going to have a tree change, maybe buy a farm, ‘buy a doer upper’, travel overseas LOTS...who knows, the choice is ours, and it feels great!
Life in our 50’s seems to have an exciting ring about it, no debt, no ties, no homework, no school run...long visits from our granddaughter Lily, overseas travel, the choice is ours...mid life crisis, what mid life crisis, this is the best time of our life!